The great saint Sayyed Ibrahim Fasih Naksibendi (ks) said:

“The murid must not be deceived when his Murshid (spiritual guide) turns to him and gives him compliments, he must even desire this special treatment to stop, it means, the murid must not expect respect and high regards from his Murshid, because the respectful behaviors of the Murshid to the murid are actually a destructive situation for the murid, this kind of behaviour by the Murshid is caused by the murids disloyalty. If the Murshid sometimes behaves to the murid harshly it is to humiliate his nafs (ego), it is for the mercy of the murid because the Murshid has taken him under his training and is engaging with him.

In this case the murid has to be patient in this situation, everyone must not forget that everyone is in a different test”

-Ibrahim Fasih, Halidiyye Rasalesi 22